Our promise to each other
Community guidelines & safety
Nobody should have to untangle divorce alone. These few guidelines are what keep Unknotted Foundation a calm, safe place to be honest — please read them before you post, and thank you for looking after the people here.
Kindness first
- No judgement about anyone's choices, circumstances or pace.
- Disagree gently, or simply move on. Nobody here is winning an argument.
- Everyone is welcome — women and men, at any stage, from any background.
Lived experience, not advice
- Members share what happened to them and what helped. That is not legal, financial, medical or therapeutic advice.
- Verified professionals are labelled as such, and even then their replies are general information, never advice about your case.
- Always check your own situation with a qualified professional.
Protect privacy — yours and other people's
- Please don't post case numbers, court documents, hearing details, addresses or anything that identifies your children.
- Don't name your ex-partner, their family, solicitors or judges.
- No screenshots of private messages, and nothing shared here should be copied elsewhere.
- You can post anonymously at any time — the choice is made per post.
Keeping each other safe
- Report anything unkind, unsafe or identifying using the report control on any post or reply.
- Reported content goes to our moderators, who can hide it while it is reviewed.
- Members who put others at risk are warned, suspended or removed.
- If you'd rather not see someone, you can report them and ask our moderators to keep you apart.
If you need help right now
Unknotted Foundation is a community, not a crisis service, and we can't see posts straight away. If you're struggling badly, please reach out to people who can help today.
- Samaritans
- Free, 24 hours a day — call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org
- Emergency services
- If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999
- Refuge / National Domestic Abuse Helpline
- Free, 24 hours a day — call 0808 2000 247
- Respect Men's Advice Line
- Support for men experiencing domestic abuse — call 0808 8010 327
- NSPCC
- Worried about a child? Call 0808 800 5000 or email help@nspcc.org.uk
Children and vulnerable adults
Unknotted Foundation is for adults aged 18 and over. If anything shared here suggests a child or vulnerable adult is at risk of harm, our moderators may need to act on it, including contacting the appropriate authorities. Please never post photographs, schools, locations or any detail that could identify a child.
Questions, or something you'd like us to look at? Visit About Unknotted Foundation or manage your privacy in Settings.